The dating world is an interesting place and before I continue with the story, I’d like to say, I do solicit dating possibility and this one was not of my seeking.
I received a message on Facebook from someone I didn’t know and he proceeds to inquire about dating me. I look at his profile and notice that he is local to the area where I live so I find this curious and proceed with questions.
Have we met before?
How do you know of me?
I saw you on Facebook and thought you were pretty.
Interesting and no thank you.
Come on, I know you are single.
How do you know I am single?
Because I saw you on Tinder.
Did we match?
So you stalked me on Facebook when I didn’t swipe you?
and the conversation ends.
Later he messages me again and makes some small talk and inquires about my business and what I do. I consider this to be a client possibility and proceed with caution. We make other small talk and I agree to meet him. We meet for about an hour and I am not attracted to him and he tries to direct the conversation to dating me. I end the meet and let him know I am not interested and still he tries to hug me and goes in for a kiss, which I dodge and go about my way to my car.
Several days later he messages me:
You didn’t seem to enjoy the hug, you obviously need physical contact, stop denying it to yourself and invite me over.
I respond to let him know that I normally am a great hugger only I didn’t feel any chemistry with him and I did not wish to lead him on. He goes on to tell me:
It takes time to get to know people, chemistry not happening right away doesn’t mean a good relationship cannot happen. You’re not good at making companion decisions but that’s okay, some people never learn.
I thank him for his judgments and leave the conversation. This was two months ago and then today, as though today wasn’t bazaar enough already, he messages me:
May I ask you a question?
you’ve been married for x years and you’ve had very few where you were happy as far as I understood but most of your life you were in a steady relationship then you come to the “dating” scene again.
Yes married- twice- off and on happy and yes single and in the dating world
why do you do things like that?
I think you have me confused with someone else
Interesting point of view.
that’s no way to meet people. You can’t tell anything. specially about me. i’m very “shy” at first
Okay, well it works for me to choose in the moment if I feel a connection or not. It’s not a judgment about you, I’m simply not attracted to you.
I must have been married as a baby, LOL and you actually know nothing about me. Thanks for your input. I’m good though.
If you were good, you wouldn’t be single at this age
Hahaha. I’m single by choice silly boy!
and I blocked him.
How often are we pursuing those who are not interested and making them wrong for not choosing us?
How many women out there would play into this?
Dating tip- Stop!